New moms go through a roller coaster of emotions as they welcome a baby into this world. The change to their physical bodies, the sudden demands of trying to care for a baby and the realization that their life is completely different is a lot to take on at once. Some moms are reticent to speak up and say what they really want. Over at Mom Junction, there is an article describing the top ten things new moms want but might not make it known because there is so much going on.
1. The ‘Freebies’
Every hospital room is packed with these ‘freebies’ after birth. The list is huge from measuring tape and diapers to nasal aspirators and pacifiers. Hospitals usually give it to the family post birth. Many mothers have stated that although irrational, they wanted to keep these things and felt uncomfortable to ask if they could.
There’s all kinds of stuff here. No reason not to get a few of them before leaving the hospital.
It doesn’t matter if this is your first child or your fifth, everyone needs some help after having a baby. Mothers post labor often complain of disorientation- this could be due to the change in their bodies physically and mentally. Another factor is that every baby is different. Asking for help as to what to do next seems scary and illogical for most. In reality, maybe a little more time with the nurse, asking questions and guidance could go a long way.
Yes, help, but not just any help, the help that is most wanted and appreciated. This is where family and close friends can jump in to do something very specific, such as helping with laundry, dishes, bring a meal or taking older kids out for a bit. It all adds up and helps mom transition as the first few days and weeks are particularly disorienting.
3. More Time With Lactation Consultants
Lactation consultants are available for mothers to help with breastfeeding the new born baby. Many mothers don’t realize that they can request for more time with these consultants. They also feel that their time with them is ‘limited’ and refrain from asking many questions which will be helpful for them. It is perfectly normal to not be able to breastfeed properly during your initial moments with your newborn. Just relax and make inquiries for both you and the baby to be comfortable.
4. Stronger Pain Meds
Labour is painful. Post labor pain, the exhaustion is tremendous. Most doctors and nurses prescribe painkillers based on what they assume the pain threshold of the mother. However, if the pain is too much for you to handle, just request a stronger dosage. Being shy or uncomfortable isn’t going to help you if you’re in pain.
6. The Baby To Sleep In The Nursery
You just went through labor after carrying a life in your body for nine months. If anyone deserves to rest and relax at this point, it is you! The fear of being judged as incompetent is high in most mothers and this request of taking the newborn to the nursery is hardly done. If you do feel very uncomfortable, just call your nurse or family member and ask them to make the request as you would like to sleep or rest for some time.
Yes, this is one to take advantage of. You have the rest of your child’s growing up years to worry about having him sleep in your house. Let the nursery take over during the night so that you can have a few peaceful hours.
8. Someone To Take Photos
While friends and family come in to see you and your newborn, sometimes a picture is all it takes to capture the initial moments. After all, you won’t ever have them with your child again. Just ask your nurse or a friend to take your pictures during these special moments as they are rare and precious. You won’t regret it later.
This is one that everyone can help with. Snapping a few pictures of those first precious moments will capture those memories forever.
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