All parents want their kids to be well behaved. They probably would do just fine if it wasn't for the adults who so frequently exhibit all the wrong ways to instill the right behavior in their children. Parents struggle with maintaining the right balance and tone with their children. I recently came across an article at Parenting Nation with a few helpful tips for things parents should avoid doing with their kids.
Yelling and Nagging
Parents, sometimes, keep yelling at their children when they find them hard to be controlled. This way the parents simply vent their frustration. But it is of no avail because the children, with the time passing by, learn to deal with these “habitual yellers”. For these types of parents; the alternative to this yelling is not to say anything until the anger comes under control because most children behave in the cool manner when they are calmly and reasonably requested.
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This is a tough one. It's very natural for parents to want to raise their voices. However, it's not effective over the long haul as yelling prevents us from having a real conversation and expressing what is needed and why.
Lecturing and Advice Giving
Lecturing is just a monologue and involving no interaction with the audience. A child who is unable to keep pace with the class in completing the homework, the lecturing has no effect on his mentality. Likewise advice giving is also an action which generally falls in deaf ears. These are painstaking exercises having no results. Instead, if the parents try to put themselves in the children place, they could understand and thereby handle the problem.
Lecturing is a one-sided conversation. We make it about ourselves and take zero consideration for our child into account.
Shaming and Belittling
Parents, sometimes, strangely behave in the way which cause their children feel inadequate and smaller. This is the grave mistake and the parents should keep themselves off from such type of behaviour.
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Often, when parents don't feel too good about themselves they take it out on their kids. This is obviously a terrible thing to do.
Physical punishment and Coercion
A child can never be disciplined by the physical force and coercion. These types of behaviour are only helpful in creating rebellious attitude in a child. Try and talk to your child to help him understand where what exactly his problem is.
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This sends the message that we get power by forcing our way onto our children. We should not be surprised to see them in turn try to do the same thing with us and with others.
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