Looking for some specific signs that your parenting is less than optimal? Well, maybe you're not up for it today. But since you clicked here, I think you can handle it. Good parenting is about becoming aware of what we are doing and how we can make adjustments. One of the most obvious signs of parenting issues is with the behavior we see in our kids. I read a post over at Mom Junction with some excellent ideas on this topic.
2. Lying Too Often
If you find your child often lying to you, even about the minutest of things, it is most likely that you have overreacted to his/her mistakes earlier. Kids are sensitive souls and lying is just their way of avoiding some shouting.
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This is common. We blow up at little mistakes and wonder why kids would much rather lie to us than tell the truth. Use mistakes as teaching opportunities by staying calm and really listening.
3. Low Self-Esteem
If you feel that your little one is not confident enough and has a low self-esteem, it might be because you impart an advice more than the words of encouragement. At a young age, children often look for motivation from their parents and can feel discouraged if that doesn’t happen.
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5. Taking Stuff That Doesn’t Belong To Them
Have you ever noticed your little ones taking stuff that doesn’t belong to them, despite the fact that you never shy away from buying things for them? This might be because they don’t feel like they have a choice in what is bought for them. If you involve them in the shopping exercise, not only will they stop indulging in this habit but it will also be extra ‘fun’ time for both of you.
Including kids in the decision making process really encourages ownership and empowerment.
7. Feeling Of Envy
Do you think that your children often feel quite jealous? If you constantly compare your kids with others, this may end up happening. So, refrain from drawing a comparison with other kids, no matter how much you think it is for their own good.
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This might be a tough one to avoid but we have to remember that the focus should be on the child, not what others are doing.
8. Attention Seeker
If your kids are constantly throwing tantrums and getting angry, this may be because they don’t feel appreciated enough. Often, children misbehave as they feel that it is the only way to get their parents’ attention.
Because this often works we have to be careful not to reward tantrums.
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