Potty training is one of the biggest challenges for many parents. Every parent wants their child to be potty-trained as early as possible. There is no need to explain why that is. However, in our desire to see our little one become independent, we may make several mistakes along the way. I saw an article at Today's Parent with some helpful ideas on what we should not to when potty-training our kids.
1. Starting too early
“I have parents who swear their 18-month-old child is toilet trained, and it’s true there are exceptions, just like we occasionally see eight-month-old babies walking—it’s very early, but it does happen,” says Heard. In most cases, however, she says the parents are simply training themselves. “The caregiver is just catching on to the child’s rhythms and cues, and helping them get to the toilet on time,” she says. That’s OK if your little one can hold their bladder fairly well and you’re OK with being very hands-on about potty time for a while, but it can be a problem if you, say, leave them with the grandparents for a day or a babysitter for an evening. Other caregivers might not be able to keep up with your system, and this can be frustrating for everyone, says Heard. The majority of kids are two to four years of age before they can be reliably toilet trained, she says.
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We can make it about ourselves and not about what is best for our child. Development happens naturally and should not be rushed. In fact, we can create a lot of frustration and actually delay the process if we rush things.
4. Doing “night training”
When kids take longer to learn to control their bladder during the night, that’s due to a maturational delay in the brain. “It’s absolutely beyond their control,” says Heard. She recommends using overnight training pants and waterproof mattress covers until your child gets the hang of holding their bladder while they sleep. “About 10 percent of kids still wet the bed at age eight, and that’s the point at which we tend to intervene medically,” says Heard. Unless there is a medical problem, all kids will eventually catch on to it—there’s no actual “training” required for nighttime.
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Nighttime is totally different and must be treated as such. Patience is a must.
5. Relying too much on rewards
“Children really don’t need a Smartie for going potty,” says Heard. After all, they won’t continue receiving candies after each trip to the toilet once training is over. For most kids, praise is reward enough, she says. If your child is three and a half or four, and you really feel they need the extra motivation, then bust out the treats. “But it’s not something I recommend as a starting place,” she says.
I can't see doing something like this for too long. maybe as a way to kick-start things to get a new habit going. But if our kids get accustomed to expecting a reward for everything they do, we've got larger issues to deal with.
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